Firstly, wow, if you talk like you type, you must be a real pain at parties.
Secondly, your sustained long-term structural change will never happen. It simply isn't possible to implement ideals onto society. The structures of human relations cannot be changed by a faction that claims to be libertarian without reverting to despotism. There has never been a successful escape from tyranny since the rise of the State, and there never will be.
It is simply impossible to live by ideals (whatever those ideals are, anarchy, liberty, justice, etc. etc.) and not open your mind up to exploitation. All movements eventually contradict their own goals and purposes because they put their trust in individuals who claim to represent those ideals (just as Catholic priests claim to represent the world of god). Your loyalty is then lost from the ideal and becomes affixed on your glorious leader. This always happens, no matter how democratic your system is.
Face it, anarchist society is something that will never happen. Not only is there literally nobody in the world who would be willing to allow such an endeavor to exist, but any attempt at doing so will devolve into a degenerated quasi-state like Rojava or anarchist Catalonia.
And since you seem to be exceptionally eager to jump on the ad hominems, yes, I do consider myself an anarchist. I'd say I'm a hell of a lot more anarchist than you since I'm not willing to sell out to the highly authoritarian nature of anarchist organizations.